Monday, May 24, 2010

A Memorial for Memorial Day

Since my daughter is buried in San Diego, and we can't be at her grave site on Memorial Day, I want to honor her by sharing my thoughts that I shared at her funeral 4 1/2 years ago. How grateful I am for eternal relationships! Olivia, I love you....xoxoxo

Never in a million years could I have prepared myself for the events that have taken place over the past week. Thank you for sharing our burden, for easing our pain. We’ve felt your prayers. We have been so overwhelmed at the love that we’ve felt since the loss of our beautiful daughter. I don’t know how anyone could make it through something so horrendous without family, friends and the gospel of Jesus Christ.

I'd like to share a quote from one of my favorite books, The Chosen:
Human beings do not live forever. We live less than the time it takes to blink an eye, if we measure our lives against eternity……What does it mean to have to suffer so much if our lives are nothing more than a blink of an eye? I learned a long time ago that a blink of an eye in itself is nothing. But the eye that blinks, that is something. A span of life is nothing. But the man (or girl) who lives that span, she is something. She can fill that tiny span with meaning, so its quality is immeasurable though its quantity may be insignificant.

Five short years ago to this very day, Olivia Grace traveled from her native land of Korea and was placed into my arms. My joy was exquisite and the bonding instant; absolutely no different than when I had given birth to my four other children. I was in love! The joining of our hearts on December 19, 2000 was the culmination of an incredible spiritual journey to bring her into our home.

There are many things that I do not know in this world, but I do know that Olivia was meant to enter our home. The call was strong, although at times, the flesh was weak. There were countless times through the adoption process that I would fall to my knees for strength and assurance because of my own insecurity to do such a thing. We already had four children of our own and I could have had another child, but it was clear to me what the Lord wanted. Because of that assurance I told Matt: “I don’t dare NOT follow through on these promptings.” Olivia’s name comes from the allegory in Jacob 5 about the Olive tree. She would be as the olive branch from another part of the Lord’s vineyard and be grafted or sealed into our family. Grace means a blessing from God
Although the pain has been unbelievably intense and I’ve agonized over and over and over the heart wrenching events of the past week, today I feel peace and blessed knowing she is safely back to our Father in Heaven and the Savior, Jesus Christ. Just hours before her passing, she asked me to cradle her in my arms and hold her like a baby. I know the Savior is doing the same for her.

Many of you have asked if there is anything that you could do. You've already shared our burdens, helped ease our pain, mourned with us, but there is something I want to ask each of you to do in Olivia’s honor. I would give anything to have more time with Olivia. You have that time with your own children, and so do I with my 4 beautiful, incredible remaining children. Please give your children a thousand more hugs and kisses, play more games, read more stories, take more walks, have more date nights, be more patient and loving, eliminate cross words, and cuddle with them…… like there is no tomorrow. LOVE – the most powerful force on earth


Family photo the day Olivia was sealed to us in the Bountiful Temple.


  1. Stacy, Through my tears, I read your beautiful tribute to your amazing daughter! I have a close friend who went to Russia to bring one of their 8 children home to them. We understand your journey and assurance-that she is and always was ment to be yours!!! Roger, my little brother and his wife Kerry, adopted Jessica when she was 4 days old, at Madison Mem. Hospital. Then 17 months later she gave birth to their 2nd daughter. After many years and lots of money, trying for another baby-Luke (*my Mom's maiden name) came to them. They were at his birth and they got to bring him home 24 hours later! There truly is no difference between any of their children-even though Jessica is part Native American and Mexican and Luke is part Jamacian and part White! I've had a personal witness born to me, as I held Luke the day of his blessing, that he was OURS! As our eyes met that day, I knew that I KNEW him from before this life and his eyes reflected the same to me! Jessica is 21 and Luke is 12! And Taylor, their middle daughter is 20-but there is NO diffence in the love we have for all of these special spirits that have come to bless not only Roger and Kerry's home, but our WHOLE extended family! Thank you for sharing your story and my love goes out to you and your family! Aren't we so blessed to have been raised in the gospel! Love, Debbie

  2. 在莫非定律中有項笨蛋定律:「一個組織中的笨蛋,恆大於等於三分之二。」......................................................................

  3. 當一個人內心能容納兩樣相互衝突的東西,這個人便開始變得有價值了。............................................................

  4. 生命的意義,是在於活的充實;而不是在於活得長久。.......................................................

  5. 不論做什麼事,相信自己,別讓別人的一句話,把你擊倒。.......................................................